this is awful omg better advice would be to not be in a relationship with a person if they act this way.
you don’t write, do you?
I would be pissed as hell if I got into a “meaningful argument” with my partner and they put it into their writing. Like fuck you I’m not your material.
Well I for one use basically anything as material in my writing- not specific things, just I want it to be as realistic as possible so I need to know that when a person says this/does this/this sort of thing happens- that the reactions and thoughts I’m writing about are perfectly valid. I cant write a scene unless I am confident it’s right. So I’m obviously not going to put personal details of a conversation or argument in my novel, but what I will do is use the information I gathered about human interaction and transfer that in any way I can.
Anyway,I believe that writing is always a reflection of the author (whether they aim for that or not) so of course personal experiences will influence it.
I’m just amused by the writer/non-writer back-and-forths :P but seriously, it’s not “horrible” or anything. If you’re dating someone, then learn them. Know when to leave them be or give them hugs, know what things they hate to hear and what they need to hear. It’s all down to the indicidual.
Are you ever surrounded by your friends but still feel so alone? Like you’re being ignored, although you probably aren’t, and so you try to talk louder or repeat yourself to reaffirm that people can here you, that you aren’t invisible, but all that happens is you annoy everyone? “Yes, we heard you the first time” “No need to shout, inside voice”. And so you sit quietly in a corner, trying not to be a burden on the group, trying not to annoy anyone, and you begin to think “does this group even need me? what do I bring to the group? why do they let me hang around?” Like, yeah, you brought them together and they wouldn’t have met without you, but now that they’re all friends, they’ve got the funny one, and the outgoing one, and the one with passion and the one that people go to for advice. And it’s just you, sitting in your corner, the insecure person on the side, trying so hard for these people to like you and to not be too annoying or they might change their mind about liking you, but not always feeling like you’re actually a part of the group…. Because that’s been my entire life.